When is it that we start to personalize our problems?
When does depression become "my depression?"
When does bitterness become "my bitterness?"
"My bad habits."
It's a red flag to me when we take such ownership of our problems or our sins.
Taking ownership of a sin means that it has become too much a part of us. Most likely, if we are questioned about one of these particular sins, we will be more defensive than if confronted by other issues.
What is it that all of these problems or sins have in common? They are based in our emotional responses to problems. The last two are not really sins, but unfortunately they lead to the sins of fear, bitterness, and anxiety if we take too much ownership of them, and bad habits also lead to these other sins creating a circular structure to our problems.
So how can we experience grief and let it run it's course along with the sadness without letting it turn into sin? How do we break the cycle of depression, bitterness, and bad habits before we begin to take ownership of them?
As with everything in life, the answer is in Christ. Our ownership for life lies in Christ, and the only thing that we should truly take ownership of is Him and His attributes.
love, joy, peace, long suffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, and temperance (Galatians 5:22) - These are the fruits that come from the tree of knowing Christ. They cover everything that we need to give over the ownership of our problems to Christ, confessing them when necessary, and striving to be fruitful in Christ.